Singles – do you complain about your lack of matches on dating apps? Or find it’s always the ones you’re not that fussed about who end up messaging you? Whether it’s your overly flowery bio or blurry group photos to blame, your online dating presence could be easily remedied if you follow these seven simple steps…
1. Keep Your Bio Short, Sweet & To The Point…
Yes, your recent yoga retreat in India gave you a whole new lease on life, your pet cat Misty is your entire world and your ex was a selfish arsehole who sat on the sofa while you cleaned the house. Do we need a paragraph on any of the above in your dating profile? No.
“If your bio is too long, the reader tends to lose interest and judge you to be self-obsessed or boring,” explains Celebs Go Dating relationship expert Lady Nadia Essex, who’s teamed up with dating app Badoo to pinpoint where people go wrong when creating their online personas.
It’s fine to mention you love yoga and are a cat person, but keep it to a couple of words – or emojis, if your profile is on an app like Bumble or Tinder. At the same time, remember this is your dating profile not your LinkedIn. And the purpose is to attract a new partner, not a job prospect. While it’s more than fine to mention your best personality traits – from your sense of humour to your intelligence – try not to be boring, or lead people to expect your next line to focus on your impeccable organisation skills.
And under no circumstances should your profile mention your ex.
2. …But Not Non-Existent
It’s just as easy to make your bio too short. As mortifying as it can feel – summing yourself up in a few sentences to strangers – being vague, leaving chunks of your profile blank or linking to your Instagram instead of writing anything won’t make you seem mysterious and alluring in the online dating world. Leaving potential matches with nothing but your photos to go on will make them more likely to swipe left.
“If your bio is too short, you look like you can’t be bothered to make a decent effort. This could be totally untrue, but get it wrong and your matches will be significantly lower,” cautions Nadia.
3. Be Honest About Yourself & Who You’d Like To Meet
While it’s important to focus on your best qualities and describe yourself in a favourable light, it pays to be honest on your dating profile. Sure, lying about your age, height or other physical attributes might secure you a date with someone you like the look of, but things could end awkwardly when they realise you’re not really the person they were expecting to meet. Equally, if you lie about your hobbies to better align them with those of someone you’re hoping to date, you might find yourself on the back of a jet ski, trembling with fear and realising it’s too late to come clean about your hatred of water sports.
You should also be honest and clear when describing who you’re hoping to meet. Try not to be too granular about their physical attributes – being tall, lean with hazel eyes and curly brown hair doesn’t necessarily make someone an interesting person or the right match for you. Instead, focus on the character traits you’re looking for in a partner, or the interests you’re hoping to have in common.
4. Ask: Do Your Photos Do You Justice?
To anyone older than generation selfie, finding a decent set of photos of yourself can feel like a chore. As a general rule, avoid photos that are blurry, several years old or group pics where it’s not obvious which one you are. And above all else, don’t include photos of you posing with your ex on your dating profile – sure, you know the relationship is now dead and gone, but a happy photo of you with your arms wrapped round someone else is a confusing message to send potential suitors.
If you’re struggling to find photos that do you justice, it might be worth investing in a professional photoshoot with a company like Hey Saturday, who specialise in photographing singles for dating profiles.
5. Run Your Profile Past Someone You Trust
Before hitting ‘publish’, it’s worth running your dating profile past someone you trust – whether that be your mum, a close friend or your office bestie. As well as being able to check for typos, the people closest to you will know if your personality is coming across in what you’ve written and whether you generally sound like the person they know and love.
6. Avoid Swiping Left Too Soon
Once your new or updated profile is live, it’s time to browse or swipe for potential matches. According to dating guru Nadia, swiping left on the first picture is one of the biggest mistakes singles make on dating apps.
“Just because someone’s display picture doesn’t take your fancy, doesn’t mean they’re a total write off,” she says.
So, even if you don’t like their shoes, haircut or holiday villa from however many summers ago, have the patience to look through their full range of images.
7. Be Brave & Suggest A Date
If you find yourself chatting with someone you click with, there’s no need to wait around to be asked on a date. You didn’t wait for that great job to come knocking on your door, or your holiday with the girls to organise itself, so why take a back seat in your love life?
It’s the 21st century – regardless of how successful you are or what gets your out of bed in the morning, be confident when you feel a spark and ask them on a date.