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 /  17 January 2025  

#  5 Ways To Become A High Value Woman  


You may have seen the phrase ‘High Value Woman’ being bandied about on social media but a real definition seems as elusive as a Birkin bag – hard to get your hands on and, depending on who you ask, difficult to afford. Here, expert life and business coach Natasha Leya explains what a high value woman really is and why – and how – anyone can be a HVW…  


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### The High Value Woman Proposition 



  

These days, the idea of a high value woman is a rare, mythical creature who simply knows how to have it all, do it all, and be it all. But I believe she’s a woman we can all aspire to become with a few tweaks, a little self-awareness, and some emotional intelligence. Like most things in life, the answer lies somewhere in the middle. The magic is we all have the power to become her. And while social media is buzzing with advice, declarations and the inevitable opinions that either build us up or tear us down, I have spent years studying, embodying and teaching women the essence of a high value woman.

 

 

 

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## Confidence 

 

 

There’s one accessory a high value woman never leaves the house without: confidence. While she doesn’t boast, a high value woman also doesn’t shrink herself or apologise for taking up space – physically, emotionally or intellectually. She may not be the loudest, the richest or the trendiest but her quiet confidence fills the room before she even steps through the door.

Confidence isn’t something that comes easily to everyone. Start with the basics, like holding your shoulders back. It’s a little trick that nudges your brain into releasing confidence hormones. And if you’re really struggling, as I once did, why not create an alter ego? This isn’t about reinventing yourself; think of it in terms of affirmations. Any time self-doubt creeps in or you experience a confidence wobble, ask yourself, ‘What would she do?’, ‘How would she respond?’ These questions serve as a gentle reminder of who you are and that you deserve to occupy this space. As a high value woman, remember this: your worth isn’t contingent on perfection; it’s inherent, simply because you exist.

 

 

 

02

## Emotional Intelligence

 

 

If confidence is what gets you through the door, then emotional intelligence is what keeps you from bolting when life throws you a curveball. A high value woman has mastered the delicate art of balancing her emotions while being finely attuned to the feelings of those around her. She’s a pro at reading the vibes in the room, picking up the unspoken dynamics and responding in a way that creates real connections. She knows when to step up and when to sit back, when to lean in and when to gracefully retreat. Her emotions never unravel like a poorly stitched hem; instead, she weaves them with intention, making sure she’s expressing herself authentically rather than shutting down.

In every sphere, be it business, friendships or romantic entanglements, she leads tough discussions with compassion, a win-win mindset and not an ounce of ego, creating an atmosphere where everyone feels valued and understood.

 

 

 

 

03

## Boundaries

 

 

Just like her most trusted sunscreen, the boundaries a high value woman sets are there to shield her from anything that could burn her (or burn her out). Whether it’s toxic relationships, flaky friends, endless plans or someone sliding into her DMs at 11pm, she isn’t afraid to say “No” to protect her values and preserve her peace.

She’s fiercely loyal to those who add value to her life, but she won’t bend over backwards for people who don’t reciprocate. Her time, energy and emotional availability are precious commodities, not marked down on the clearance rack of life. One of the biggest misconceptions is that setting boundaries means being selfish but when people say selfish, I hear “self-focused”. If there’s one lesson I learned from dating and the chaos of London life in my 20s, it’s that being self-focused allows you to set standards, prioritise your needs and carve out space for healthier habits and relationships. Suddenly, your social circle tightens but you’ve swapped out fast fashion for timeless classics – those that drain you for those that champion you. It’s not about being picky or standoffish; it’s about recognising that validation and self-love is an inside job and often fleeting when sourced externally.

 

 

 

04

## Growth

 

 

Much like burgundy taking over as one of autumn’s hottest trends, a high value woman knows that she must continue to evolve to stay ‘in style’. While she is rooted in gratitude and always enjoys the journey rather than racing to the destination, she also never stops investing in herself through coaching, self-reflection or self-development.

A high value woman has this unwavering trust that things will unfold as they’re meant to. Now, that doesn’t mean she tries to speak things into existence by kicking back and staying in a dead-end job or a bad relationship – we all know that manifestation alone doesn’t pay the bills. The secret lies in balancing trust and action, even if that action is messy. Because guess what? A high value woman isn’t obsessed with the notion of perfection, a makeover montage or tearing herself apart to become ‘the best’ but rather evolving into the best version of herself, one step at a time. And sometimes, that means slipping into something a little more comfortable, like self-acceptance.

 

 

 

05

## Feminine Power

 

 

When channelled correctly, feminine power is truly a superpower. Your ability to tap into your nurturing and intuitive energy to problem solve, lead with compassion and create deep connections is the very thing that gives you the ultimate status of a high value woman. Just like a Greek goddess you get to be sensual but eternally resilient; compassionate with a relentless thirst to succeed; to enjoy the finer things in life without being afraid to move in the trenches; to be human and yet divine. A high value woman in her feminine power doesn’t feel compelled to downplay her softness to thrive in male-dominated spaces, nor does she bend to the expectations of others. Instead, she redefines strength on her own terms, fully embracing her emotional depth and intuition as assets. One last morsel of wisdom: becoming a high value woman isn’t about what you wear in life, but about how you wear your life.

 

 

 

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