The Japanese Wellness Trend That Can Transform Your Life
Kintsugi embraces the idea of having your flaws on display for everyone to see. Translating as ‘golden joinery’, it can be seen as a metaphor for life, an ethos explored in the new book Kintsugi: Embrace Your Imperfections and Find Happiness – The Japanese Way by psychologist Tomás Navarro.
Having been a therapist for 20 years, Navarro realised how many of his clients would talk about being ‘broken’ after experiencing grief, trauma, or heartbreak. His new book aims to teach people how to apply the rules of the ancient art to their everyday life in order to heal our emotional wounds and rebuild our lives, without forgetting about the past.
Here are some of the life lessons we’ve learnt from Navarro’s wise words…
Suffering Is Inevitable
“Do not try to live a pleasant life without suffering,” Navarro says. “Because if you do you will be resigning yourself to surviving instead of living intensely.” Essentially, the first step to practising kintsugi is to take risks – you can’t be scared of getting damaged along the way because it’s inevitable.
Just like pottery, even if you treat something with care it’s possible that it’ll break, and it might be outside your control. In life, we all lose loved ones, or get ill, or suffer some other tragedy that we can’t change. So instead of avoiding living, we should instead learn to repair ourselves after hard times.
Face Challenging Times Head On
Instead of ignoring problems and sticking our heads in the sand, Navarro encourages people to be realistic and get themselves ready for life’s more challenging times with kintsugi techniques. Don’t pretend you haven’t been broken – think of hard times and life lessons and put those broken pieces back together.
Embrace the scars afterwards too – whether physical or emotional – as a beautiful part of who you are. They are, after all, the things that make up our life story.
Recognise Yourself, Rebuild Yourself & Give Yourself A Chance
“The past is gone. It explains a few things about your life, but it is nothing more than an influence – don’t forget that. There is no reason why your past should condition your whole life,” Navarro says.
While he believes it’s good to confront hard times, once they pass it’s best to leave them behind you instead of dwelling on things. Learn from what happened, but then turn the page – it’s time to focus on what’s ahead of you.
It All Comes Down To Your Emotional Strength
“The difference between a person who is confident and happy, and someone who is not, resides in their emotional strength,” Navarro reveals. “Emotional strength is the set of resources available to us when tackling challenges and problems. Most people suffer due to the accumulation of minor problems rather than just one single adversity.”
Navarro proffers that “emotional strength can be learned”. Kintsugi sees emotional strength as a set of skills and techniques which, when understood and mastered, can teach us how to be happy and manage adversity in our lives. Therefore, Navarro emphasises the point of continuously reinforcing our emotional strength and adding coping techniques to our repertoire in order to feel stronger and more confident when facing everyday challenges.
Pick Up The Pieces – But Cleanse Them Of Impurities
“Pick up every piece of your soul… taking care not to pick up any dirt along with the pieces; don’t get them confused. During breakage we tend to acquire destructive habits, routines that seem helpful on the surface, but actually limit us, attitudes that are debilitating and toxic; ultimately, factors that may contaminate the process… Pick up the pieces without impurities, Actively decide what you will and will not bring with you when starting this new chapter in your life,” Navarro says.
At its core, the act of kintsugi is about embracing your flaws and your suffering – but that doesn’t mean keeping them around. If we continue to suffer, then we’re essentially holding the door open for those toxic emotions – anger, resentment, frustration – that hold us back. In order to move on and ‘rebuild’ ourselves, we need to recognise those feelings and what they meant to us, but leave them there on the floor.
You can buy Tomás Navarro’s book Kintsugi: Embrace Your Imperfections and Find Happiness – The Japanese Way from Amazon.co.uk
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