What’s In The Killing Kittens Founder’s Bedside Cabinet
A good lube is an instant easy upgrade. It’s one of the most overlooked things but it makes an immediate difference. There’s always a proper, high-quality lube in my bedside drawer – Ples’Jour Opal is a favourite. It’s silicone-based, so it has that silky, long-lasting glide that doesn’t dry out halfway through and it feels smooth rather than sticky. It removes friction – physically and mentally – and makes everything feel more fluid and connected. JOMO is another favourite – clean, modern and designed to feel more like a beauty product than something clinical.
You’ll also find one or two high-quality toys in there – including something by LELO. The SONA 2 is a standout because it doesn’t use typical vibrations – instead, it creates these soft, pulsing waves that feel deeper and less intense in that buzzy, overwhelming way. GIGI 2 is a classic for a reason – gently curved, really easy to use and designed to hit the right spot without any guesswork. The LOKI Wave is slightly more specialised but the movement it creates means it almost does the work for you, which is why people love it. Then there’s ENIGMA, which combines a few different sensations in one but still feels simple rather than complicated.
Hot Octopuss is another favourite. The Pulse Duo, worn by him and felt by both, is a favourite for couples because it fits easily into sex without interrupting anything. And if you’re after something stronger, the Pulse Queen is the brand's take on a wand – bigger, more powerful and ideal when you want something that feels a bit more indulgent.
I recommend starting with one external toy – they’re accessible, easy and consistently good – and one partner-friendly toy. The Je Joue Mimi is small, discreet and unintimidating but still powerful where it counts. Designed for external stimulation, it has a soft, body-safe silicone finish and simple controls that don’t require a learning curve. It’s the kind of product you don’t have to ‘figure out’ – it just works, which is exactly why people keep coming back to it. I also love the Je Joue Hera, which delivers rumbly vibrations to both your G-spot and clitoris simultaneously. For a curated approach, SheSpot offers a tightly edited selection that cuts through the noise and focuses on what works for women’s pleasure.
The smallest additions can make the biggest difference. A blindfold is a perfect example. It sounds simple but taking away sight heightens everything else – touch, anticipation, awareness. It slows things down, in the best way – making everything feel a little more deliberate and a little more intense.
What you wear, or don’t, can set the tone – but it’s never the main event. Confidence, comfort, that slight edge of feeling a bit daring – that’s what shifts things. Some nights that’s great lingerie, other nights it’s an oversized t-shirt that barely stays on and sometimes it’s nothing at all. The common thread is how it makes you feel. It’s about owning your body, not dressing it for someone else. Brands like Bluebella get that balance right – pieces that feel genuinely sexy but still wearable, with enough structure to feel put-together but never restrictive. And then there’s Peachaus, which leans into softness and ease with breathable fabrics and relaxed silhouettes.
Lighting is one of the quickest ways to shift the mood. Harsh overheads flatten everything, while softer, warmer light makes you feel different in your body instantly. A candle like Sitre’s Night Touch Massage Candle does more than just set the tone – it melts into a warm oil you can use on the skin, so it becomes part of the experience. Subtle, understated but seriously effective.
The best advice doesn’t come from trends – it comes from what actually works. That’s something you see so clearly through the Killing Kittens community. With over 200,000 members, the conversations aren’t about what’s new or what you should be doing – they’re about what genuinely feels good. Lube is always one of the biggest shifts people talk about, simply because it makes things easier and more enjoyable straight away. It’s important to let go of the idea that you need more, and realise that less – done well – is often what makes the biggest difference.
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