11 Bedroom Essentials This Sexpert Can’t Be Without

Billie Quinlan is determined to bring more mindfulness to the bedroom. The founder of sex-positive app Ferly believes erotic stories, thoughtful sex and self-pleasure are the secrets to a better love life. From toys to accessories, she showed us the items she wouldn’t be without.

Unbound Bender, £55

Unbound is a female-founded sex toy company bringing joy and playfulness to sex, abandoning the traditional, overtly sexual approach most toy companies have taken. Bender is great for clitoral stimulation (something most women need to orgasm) and is not intimidating, making it good for partner play. It’s also great for exploring the G-spot, and has ten different speeds and patterns, giving you a nice range of intensities to explore. Visit BeautyBay.com

Womanizer Liberty, £89

This toy lives up to all the hype and comes highly recommended. Using clever pleasure air technology, it stimulates the clitoris without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage together to provide a great orgasm. With six intensity levels and two different sized heads, it’s powerful without being too intense – I can’t be without it. 

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Unbound Booty Babes, $32 (was $43)

Anal play for the over-30s is still seen as a taboo and risqué, but this taboo prevents women exploring this erogenous zone, meaning some are missing out on unbelievable pleasure. Anal isn’t for everyone but I always advocate trying before dismissing and this starter set is perfect. It contains a booty plug and some lube – the lube has a touch of lemon and vanilla, and doesn’t contain any nasties. 


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HANX Lubricant, £14.99

I use lube with toys, on my own and with a partner. There really is no shame in using lube and we need to normalise the conversation around using it. This product is beautiful – not only is it non-sticky, non-staining and completely free from chemicals, it was also produced by two brilliant women who have really thought everything through. 


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Lelo Sona, £55 (was £69)

I’m a big Lelo fan. Earlier this year, we teamed up with Lelo to produce an exclusive erotic story that features its Sona, a sonic massager that stimulates 75% more of your clitoris than standard toys. Using sonic waves, it pulses to stimulate above, beyond and underneath the clitoris – and it’s 100% waterproof too. Pair it with Lelo’s Personal Moisturiser, a water-based formula that was designed to be used with Lelo’s toys. Visit Lelo.com

Neom Organics Real Luxury Essential Oil, £20

Our senses play a huge role in our pleasure as tuning into them helps us to become more present. Stimulating both our eyesight and smell can be very erotic, which is why I love using a lavender-based essential oil. To calm and relieve any anxieties, try adding a few drops to an essential oil diffuser to set the mood. The scent of the oil paired with a soft light will help you transition from day to night. 


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A series of guided meditations, erotic stories and daily practices, Ferly aims to bring mindful sex to the masses. When you download the app, you’re asked a few questions and are then taken through an eight-week programme. Mindful sex encourages us to change our perception of what sex is and take all the pressure off orgasm, which ultimately delivers more pleasure. Ferly has helped me develop a healthy attitude to sex and a more intimate relationship with my partner. Plus, it’s free to download. 


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Aesop Callippus Aromatique Candle, £80

Making time for self-pleasure is a crucial part of our wellbeing routine, but if you’re like me, often you’re not in the mood. As I’ve built Ferly, I’ve learnt most women have a situational desire system, which means we have to create an environment to get us in the mood rather than expecting desire to spontaneously spark. To set the scene, I often take a bath, listen to some soulful music and light a candle. This Aesop candle is expensive, but the scent is gorgeous. Visit Aesop.com

Vibio Frida, £79

Vibio was founded by two young women on a mission to make sex accessible to everyone, regardless of shape or size. Its hero toy, the Frida, was two years in the making. A discreet, app-controlled wearable, it’s waterproof and rechargeable, and has been designed to fit your vulva to stimulate the entire area. 


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Dame Eva, £97.88

Designed for partner sex, the Eva has flexible wings that are meant to be tucked under the labia to help hold the toy in place, keeping your hands free. It can take a little bit of practice to find the right position, but once you have, you won’t look back. This little beauty looks good but feels even better. The three rumble intensities offer plenty of opportunities for play. 


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Maude Vibe, $45

Maude’s vibrator comes in four different colours and is perfect for your nightstand. It looks super chic too, so you don’t have to panic hide it before your mum walks in. The perfect entry-level toy, it has three different speeds and is made from smooth, 100% platinum-grade silicone, meaning it’s soft to the touch and a pleasure to use. Visit GetMaude.com

For more visit WeAreFerly.com

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